Do Hard Things First

My least favorite chore is cleaning my house, especially without my kids help since they’re older. But I’ve been working on a new routing.

The fundamental level of success is doing the hard things first - If you go for the feared thing first, then the rest of the day is easy.  Robert G Allen.  Picturequotes.com

I have a few things I have to do everyday that I really dislike doing. I also have a number of different items that pop up during my regular routine that I really hate doing. Cleaning my house is one of those every day challenges that I really dislike doing, but still needs to be done daily, because I like my house to be clean.

Over the years I have had many different ways of getting it done. When my kids were little we took Saturday mornings to clean the house, and then I took Monday mornings to tidy up the weekend messes, but the deep cleaning was done for the week on Saturday mornings. This made for a very long day sometimes, even with the kids helping.

The older my kids get the less time they are at home. That means that more and more of the housework has fallen to me, by myself. I always get it done, but lately it has felt like a chore, a big chore, that I would put off for a day, sometimes two, but that never makes it go away, and that never makes me feel any better. It just creates a bigger mess that takes longer to clean up. I’m not sure why I do this sometimes.

Recently I decided that I really needed to take responsibility for my time better. I decided to take the house cleaning as my first and top priority each day. But I decided to break everything down into more manageable pieces every day rather than trying to do everything on Saturday.

Picture of cleaning supplies.

The last couple of weeks I have been working on my new schedule, and I have decided I really love it. At no point in time do I feel overwhelmed with a ton of cleaning, and the whole house gets done every week whereas before, there were some smaller things, like dusting that would get put off for several weeks until I just couldn’t stand it anymore.

This cleaning also typically happens first thing in the morning. I have found that anything big or pressing that needs to be done, I better get it done in the morning, because I never know what I will be doing in the afternoon. Today I was at my husband’s job site helping set trusses. That was unplanned, at least for me, to be there for the duration. It was fun to be able to go and watch and help without worry about coming home to a messy house.

I also try to get my Seminary lesson prepared in the morning, and on bill paying days, I try to get that completed in the morning. Even my exercising is a morning thing, because if I wait I won’t get it done. This makes my mornings full, but gives me a boost when I complete all my important tasks early. That way when I do have unexpected things pop up, or opportunities for spontaneous activities, I am able to go and enjoy, focusing totally on what I’m doing without underlying stress or anxiety about what I “should” be doing instead. This has brought a lot of peace of mind to my weeks lately.

Art Update

Painting big paintings during the summer is a bit overwhelming because I enjoy being outside. But these quick sketches have kept me going.

I have been painting a lot on Friday’s at the Farmer’s Market this summer, as well as doing a lot of small paintings in the evenings, rather than larger ones. Summer is hard to find lots of time to paint, mostly because I don’t want to find the time. There’s so much to do outside, and I also get lots of reference photos during the summer so I can paint all winter. So these small paintings keep me going until it starts to get cooler and I start spending more time in the house.

Arches 140 pound 6x10 inch spiral bound watercolor paper pad

I have a subscription to Emily Olson Art, so paintings are either painted from her tutorials, or inspired by her tutorials. Other’s are just things I wanted to try and paint. I have been using an Arches 140lb, 6×10 inch, spiral bound notebook, and it’s almost full, so I thought I would share the pictures I have painted in this particular book.

None of these pictures has been digitized because they are all practice pieces. But several of them are some of my favorite paintings I have painted. Painting outside for the time this summer was interesting. The paper dried faster, and somewhat differently than in a more controlled environment. The sun also dries the paper unevenly depending on how it hits the paper. Painting upright instead of flat took a bit of getting used to. But it was so fun to do several of these outside, and share something I love doing with the passer bys at the market. Which ones do you like?

Taco Lasagna

Figuring out what’s for dinner is hard sometimes, but this recipe has become a family favorite.

Picture of Taco Lasagna

I think the hardest part of being a mom and the main cook in the house is figuring out what to fix for meals. My kids are now old enough that they fix their own breakfasts and lunches. My husband makes a big breakfast and rarely eats lunch. So I am finally down to fixing just dinner meals, but even then, I run out of ideas. But scrolling through the internet, I found this recipe and I loved it! I made a few adjustments for our family, and it’s become a family favorite!

Taco Lasagna

1 lb Ground Beef, browned, crumbled, and drained if necessary

Taco seasoning of your choice, or just salt and pepper is good too.

1 – 15 oz can Black Beans, drained and rinsed

1 – 15 oz can Refried Beans

9 Flour Tortillas

3 cups grated Cheese

Salsa

Add taco seasoning (as per instructions on package) and black beans to the ground beef and simmer for 5-10 minutes so all the flavors can combine and some of the liquid cooks out.

Cut 3 tortillas in half. Grease a 9×13 casserole dish. Place 2 whole tortillas in the bottom side by side, and then use 2 halves to fill in the sides on the long edge of the dish (I don’t worry about the corners). Spread 1/2 of the refried beans on top of the tortillas (I have learned that if they’re warm they spread better). Then half of the ground beef. Sprinkle about 1/4 cup of salsa over the top, spreading as best as you can. Spread about 1 cup of the cheese over top of the salsa and meat. Repeat layer. Top with the remaining 2 full tortillas and 2 halves. Top the tortillas with the remaining cheese. Cover with foil and bake at 350 degrees for 25-30 minutes or until warmed through.

Optional toppings: Sour Cream, Salsa, Avocados, Lettuce, Fresh tomatoes, Diced Onions, Guacamole, or whatever you like on your tacos!

This dish is super easy to make, and has become one of our family’s favorite dinners. I love that it’s one baking dish and one pan for clean up.

Choice and Responsibility

I have been continuing on with my Life Coaching classes and have really been enjoying what I am learning. At the beginning of the classes the instructor said that if we as students didn’t change during the process of learning how to help our clients change, then we didn’t really do it right. I believe that is true and have changed in a number of good ways. As I have changed, or I guess as I have tried out some of what they teach, I have not only seen changes in my personal life, but some great positive changes in relationships with family. Most of which I didn’t really think were going all that bad to begin with, but obviously, there’s always room to improve, and that improvement starts me.

Picture of a book titled Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl

One of the suggested books for reading along with the course materials is a really good book called “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor E Frankl. I am almost finished with this book but thought I would share some of my thoughts about what I’ve learned. Some of it directly from the book, some from other sources, but confirmed in what Viktor Frankl also learned.

This book is about Viktor Frankl, who was a prisoner in concentration camps during World War II. He speaks about his time in the camps and what he learned along the way. This book is not super graphic by the way. I wondered if I really wanted to read it as I have seen some pretty graphic images from those camps and it is so sad what those prisoner went through, and hard to understand how human beings could treat other human beings so terribly. But this book has enough for understanding, but that’s it.

On to what I have learned. Two things really:

1 – We always have a choice.

2 – We each need to take responsibility for that choice.

Between stimulus and response there is a space.  In that space is our power to choose our response.  In our response lies our growth and our freedom.  By Viktor Frankl

He obviously didn’t have a choice to leave the concentration camp. There was much of his life that he didn’t have choice in, but he learned that he could choose how he responded to any given situation. Throughout the book I came to realize how powerful the human mind is. Those who blamed others for their circumstances, those who dwelt in the past, those who couldn’t control their anger, they were the ones who died. It didn’t matter how strong they were when they went in, they didn’t make it out. The ones who looked to the future and kept their minds busy, the ones who had purpose beyond the war, they survived. Even though everything else was controlled by someone else, they were in control of their thoughts.

I will not tell you all about the book, because if you haven’t read it yet, you should. If you have, you probably gained insights different than mine. But his perspective has changed mine. I always think I do well looking to the future, but I do find myself getting mired down by past experiences sometimes, whose results seem to creep into my mind when I try new things, making me anxious, sometimes even preventing me from even trying simply because I allow my past to rule my future. That’s not a healthy place to live.

Life is not primarily a quest for pleasure, as Freud believed, or a quest for power, as Alfred Adler taught, but a quest for meaning.  Viktor Frankl

Mr. Frankl spent what little down time he had writing on scraps of paper, if he could find any, his story and what he was learning. He spent his days working in the cold frozen ground digging, lost in thought about seeing his wife again (who died in a different concentration camp), and about speaking and telling his story. He kept his mind busy, and succeeded in helping some of his other fellow prisoners look ahead, instead of dwelling on the past.

He was saved in the end, and went on after the war to write his book and speak all over the world. He started a movement in psychology (that is what his profession was before the war) called Logotherapy, which if I understand correctly, is partly where Life Coaching came from. Helping people look to the future rather than trying to “cure” them from their past. Not that they don’t look at the past a little bit, but just to learn and then move on. I would highly recommend this book, regardless of your chosen field or profession.

Emergency Preparedness Part 2

Besides food, here are some other things to think about when preparing for the future.

If you prepare yourself at every point as well as you can... you will be able to grasp opportunity for broader experience when it appears.  Eleanor Roosevelt

This is going to be a continuation from my last post. The last post, Emergency Preparedness, was about the food that our family stores and why. This post is about a lot of the other things we do at our house to prepare. Just remember as I go along, these are the things we find most needful and that work for our area. Everyone needs to look at their own situation and prepare in the way that best fits their family, but we should all be looking at the future, and possibilities that might occur. I don’t look ahead because I’m a conspiracy theorist, but because I watch what’s going on in the world and I see all the natural disasters, and I lived through 2020 just like everyone else. How well did you do? Were you frantic because of needs that popped up that you could fulfill because everything was closed?

Last post I talked about food, but I didn’t talk about the supply chain and why having food on hand is such an important part of being prepared. Alaska is on the outskirts, so to speak, of the shipping chain. Anchorage is a worldwide hub for cargo, but it’s a stop, not a destination. Most of our food is trucked up here through Canada, or barged up from Seattle. There have been times when we have been cut off from the rest of the United States and shipping hasn’t been super reliable. Consequently, having food on hand is extremely important. While grocery stores have food, the State of Alaska’s emergency plan indicates that there is only 2 weeks worth of food in the grocery stores and warehouses combined for the population at any given moment. That won’t last long, if we can even get to the store.

By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.  Benjamin Frankllin

That brings me to my next area of preparedness, growing a garden. While we can’t grow a lot of the same things that people in most other parts of the world can, because of the cold soil, we can grow a fair amount of cold weather vegetables, berries, and even some hardy fruit trees. Greenhouses are nice to extend the growing season and increases the variety of food items that can be grown. We are in the process of building a permanent greenhouse to assist in our own food production but even plastic tented over a regular garden will work. Having a cool storage area is also a must if you’re saving those veggies for the winter. We have a root cellar, but a cold basement or crawl space that doesn’t freeze works just as well.

Here in Alaska we have to think about heat, and I think a lot of other places should think about how they could heat their homes without electricity. We only burn wood, so that’s nonelectric, but we also use a boiler system that requires electricity to distribute that heat. But we also have wood stoves in all our buildings that don’t require electricity. Because we burn wood, we always have a winter’s supply of wood on hand for whichever heat source we need to use.

We did not have electricity here on our property for 7 years after my husband and I got married, so we used generators. That was extremely good preparation for emergencies, and we have always maintained a generator on the property since. Because of all that time without electricity, we learned a lot about generators and the size needed to run everything in a house, the refrigerator, freezers, well pump, dishwasher, washer and dryer, the boiler pumps for heat, lights, etc. Generators are a great emergency item, just make sure it’s big enough to do what you want it to do.

It is better to look ahead and prepare than to look back and regret.  Jacqueline Joyner-Kersee

We store fuel of various kinds. We need diesel for the generator as well as much of our equipment, so we store fuel for those. We need gasoline for our chainsaws, so we store some for that. We usually don’t use our stored gas in our cars unless it’s starting to get old and needs to be replaced. But it can be used for that as well in an emergency. We also have a large propane tank for our range, dryer, and, in the summer, for our water heater (in the winter the boiler heats the water).

Having some cash on hand is super important as the bank may be closed in emergency situations. Also having a savings of several months worth of bills is a really good idea in case your emergency is a lack of employment. That way you have time to find work without worrying about paying bills at the same time. I don’t have a store of gold or precious metals. I guess I figure that if the economy collapses, food is a great bartering item as people need food before they need precious metals. But to each his own in that area.

I can’t remember if I mentioned water in the last post. Water is essential to survival. We have a well and a generator to pump that water out, but our generator is in a different building, so if we can’t go outside we need water in our house. I have a large 100 gallon tank full of water for longer term storage. But I also buy cases of water for shorter term storage. These are easy to grab and go in a case where we have to evacuate our home. We rotate them quite regularly by using them for car trips, camping trips, and when we go hiking. The 100 gallon tank needs to be rotated once in a while as well.

These are just some ideas of how you can be prepared for the future, so that your mind can be at ease and so that you can then look beyond yourself and your own survival and see others and look for ways to help those around you.